My Child's Name

My Child’s Name


Author Unknown

Go ahead and mention my child,
The one that died, you know.
Don’t worry about hurting me further.
The depth of my pain doesn’t show.
Don’t worry about making me cry.
I’m already crying inside.
Help me to heal by releasing the tears that I try to hide.
I’m hurt when you just keep silent, pretending he didn’t exist.
I’d rather you mention my child,
Knowing that he has been missed.
You asked me how I was doing,
I say “pretty good” or “fine.”
But healing is something ongoing.
I feel it will take a lifetime.

A Parent's Treasure

“ I loved the boy with the utmost love of which my soul is capable; and he is taken from me—yet in the agony of my spirit in surrendering such a treasure I feel a thousand times richer than if I had never possessed it.”


- William Wordsworth

Habakkuk 2:3

Speak My Name

I did not die young,

I lived the span of my life within your body, and within your love.

If you would honour me, then speak my name and number me amongst your family.
If you would honour me, then strive to live in love, for in that love I live.

Never ever doubt that we will meet again, and until that day I will grow in Heaven and wait for you.

A Love So Strong

Imagine a love so strong that saying hello and goodbye in the same day was worth the sorrow.

NPR article: Capturing The Brief Life And Death Of An Infant

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=121758804

Capturing The Brief Life And Death Of An Infant


Joanna Blum and Ashley Hutcheson talk about their extraordinary meeting to record the life and passing of Baruch Levi Blum.

On Dec. 1, Blum gave birth to Baruch Levi. He weighed 2 pounds, 11 ounces. He lived about 10 minutes. Hutcheson, a photographer, was there to document his birth.

According to the World Health Organization, nearly 3.3 million babies are stillborn every year, and more than 4 million others die within 28 days of birth.

Produced by Mary Beth Kirchner. The Obituary Project was produced by Emily Botein with Posey Gruener and edited by Deborah George. Production support from Robin Wise. The Obituary Project was made possible with support from the New York State Council on the Arts.

Finding answers to questions.

"I beg you... to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language.

Don't search for the answers, which could not be given you now, because you would not be able to live them.

And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now.

Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer." -Rainer Maria Rilke